Community & Participation Guidelines - Sexy Sensual Surrender

Effective Date: August 17, 2026

Sexy Sensual Surrender is intended to create spaces where people can explore intimacy, relationships, embodiment, desire, identity, truth, and personal growth with honesty, dignity, and respect.

These Community & Participation Guidelines apply anywhere people interact with Sexy Sensual Surrender, Oso Alexander, SSS facilitators, or one another through an SSS space, content or experience.

This may include:

• comments beneath articles, essays, products, lessons, or practices;
• Substack comments, Notes, Chats, or discussions connected with SSS;
• Kajabi communities, products, courses, or member areas;
• live coaching or group calls;
• webinars;
• workshops;
• events;
• Q&A sessions;
• group programs;
• community spaces;
• chat rooms or messaging spaces;
• future platforms or participatory experiences operated by SSS.

These Guidelines should be read together with the SSS Terms of Service and Privacy Policy.

1. The Spirit of Participation

SSS is not built around performance, debate for its own sake, fixing one another, or competing for authority.

The intention is to create spaces where people can be honest, curious, reflective, and human.

We encourage:

• speaking from your own experience;
• listening before interpreting;
• curiosity instead of certainty;
• thoughtful disagreement;
• asking rather than assuming;
• allowing people to arrive at their own conclusions;
• respecting different levels of readiness, openness, and participation;
• making room for silence, uncertainty, and changing perspectives;
• responding to vulnerability with care.

You do not need to agree with another participant in order to treat them with dignity.

2. Speak From Your Own Experience

When discussing relationships, intimacy, sexuality, identity, healing, or personal growth, participants are encouraged to speak from their own experience rather than declaring what another person is, feels, needs, or should do.

Statements such as:

“What I notice in myself is…”

or

“My experience has been…”

are generally more appropriate than diagnosing, labeling, or defining another person’s inner experience.

Disagreement is welcome.

Personal attacks, humiliation, condescension, or attempts to dominate another person are not.

3. Witness Before Fixing

Not every disclosure is a request for advice.

Do not assume that another participant wants to be coached, corrected, analyzed, diagnosed, challenged, or told what they should do.

Where appropriate, ask before offering advice.

A person may simply want to be heard.

SSS encourages witnessing, curiosity, and thoughtful reflection over unsolicited fixing.

4. Respect Consent and Boundaries

A participant may say:

• no;
• not now;
• I do not want to discuss that;
• I would rather not answer;
• please stop;
• I need space;
• I am leaving this conversation.

Those boundaries are to be respected.

Silence, non-response, declining to participate, or leaving a conversation should not be treated as an invitation to pursue someone more aggressively.

Repeatedly contacting someone who has asked for space, declined engagement, stopped responding, or blocked communication is not acceptable.

Consent may change.

Participation in one discussion, practice, call, or interaction does not create consent for another.

5. Sexual and Romantic Boundaries

Because SSS openly discusses intimacy, sexuality, desire, polarity, surrender, erotic aliveness, and relationships, clear interpersonal boundaries are especially important.

Discussion of sexuality does not constitute sexual availability.

Participation in SSS does not create romantic or sexual access to Oso Alexander, another facilitator, service provider, or participant.

The following are not permitted:

• unwanted sexual or romantic advances;
• unsolicited sexually explicit messages, images, or propositions;
• pressuring another person toward romantic, sexual, or intimate interaction;
• repeatedly pursuing someone after a lack of interest or boundary has been communicated;
• using SSS teachings about polarity, surrender, desire, masculine/feminine dynamics, or intimacy to justify coercion or entitlement;
• treating vulnerability shared within SSS as an invitation for sexual access.

6. Harassment, Abuse, and Threatening Conduct

Harassment, bullying, intimidation, threats, stalking, coercion, abusive conduct, and targeted humiliation are not permitted.

This includes conduct directed at:

• other participants;
• Oso Alexander;
• facilitators;
• contractors;
• staff;
• guests;
• service providers.

Constructive disagreement is permitted.

Harassment is not.

The distinction is whether the interaction remains about ideas and experience, or becomes targeted, threatening, degrading, coercive, or persistently disruptive.

7. Hate Speech and Discrimination

SSS does not permit content or conduct that attacks, degrades, threatens, or advocates harm toward people based on protected or inherent characteristics.

Disagreement about ideas, relationships, spirituality, sexuality, gender, culture, or social issues may occur.

That disagreement must remain directed toward ideas rather than dehumanizing people.

8. Privacy and Confidentiality

People may share deeply personal experiences within SSS spaces.

Treat those disclosures with care.

You may not, without appropriate permission:

• publish another participant’s private disclosure elsewhere;
• screenshot private or member-only conversations for external distribution;
• record another participant independently;
• share private messages;
• reveal another person’s personal information;
• disclose identifying details about someone else’s relationships, sexuality, health, family, location, or circumstances;
• use another person’s disclosure for your own promotional, professional, or commercial purposes.

Information shared in an SSS group space should not automatically be assumed to be legally confidential, and SSS cannot guarantee that another participant will never misuse something you share. Participants should therefore use discernment when deciding what to disclose. 

9. Screenshots, Recording, and Sharing Content

SSS may record live sessions or calls in accordance with the Privacy Policy.

Participants may not independently record, reproduce, screenshot, distribute, or publicly share other participants’ identifiable contributions without permission.

This includes:

• live-call video or audio;
• chat messages;
• comments;
• private messages;
• photographs;
• workshop discussions;
• member-only posts;
• personal stories.

SSS may use genuinely anonymized themes, excerpts, insights, or learnings in accordance with the Privacy Policy.

Identifiable public use remains subject to the permissions described there. 

10. Do Not Diagnose Other Participants

SSS is not a clinical treatment environment.

Participants should not present themselves as diagnosing another person’s mental health, trauma, attachment, personality, sexuality, nervous system, or psychological condition. Where a separately established professional service involves assessment or diagnosis, the terms governing that professional relationship apply instead.

Even where someone has professional credentials, participation in an SSS discussion does not automatically create a practitioner-client relationship.

Personal reflection is welcome.

Clinical authority should not be assumed.

11. No Pressure to Disclose

No one is required to share:

• trauma history;
• sexual experiences;
• relationship details;
• childhood experiences;
• health information;
• private messages;
• identity information;
• anything else they do not wish to disclose.

Do not pressure another participant to “go deeper,” reveal more, confront someone, revisit a painful memory, or discuss an intimate experience.

Depth is not measured by disclosure.

12. Advice, Coaching, and Professional Solicitation

SSS spaces are not an open lead-generation environment.

Do not use comments, group calls, webinars, discussions, or private messages to aggressively promote:

• coaching;
• therapy;
• consulting;
• products;
• services;
• affiliate offers;
• businesses;
• communities;
• events;
• unrelated platforms.

Relevant recommendations or resources may be appropriate when genuinely connected to a discussion and offered without pressure.

Repeated or unsolicited solicitation is not permitted.

13. Private Messaging and Off-Platform Contact

Connection between participants may naturally arise.

That connection must remain consensual.

Do not:

• repeatedly message someone who is not responding;
• pursue a participant across multiple platforms after they have declined contact;
• use information learned inside SSS to locate or contact someone elsewhere against their wishes;
• create alternate accounts to bypass blocks or boundaries;
• pressure someone into friendship, romance, collaboration, coaching, business, or sexual interaction.

A connection beginning through SSS does not make SSS responsible for private relationships or interactions that participants choose to pursue outside the space.

14. Protect Intellectual Property

SSS materials may not be copied, reproduced, distributed, uploaded, taught, resold, or repackaged outside the permissions granted by the applicable offer and Terms of Service.

Likewise, participants should respect the creative work of one another.

Do not copy another participant’s writing, ideas, artwork, exercises, frameworks, or other original material and present it as your own.

15. Stay Relevant to the Space

Comments and participation should have a reasonable connection to the article, product, lesson, event, call, practice, or discussion in which they appear.

Not every conversation needs to remain narrowly focused, but persistent disruption, spam, trolling, repetitive derailment, or attempts to dominate a shared space may be moderated at SSS’s discretion.

16. Participation Is Voluntary

You are never required to:

• comment;
• speak on a call;
• turn your camera on unless a particular service expressly requires it;
• answer a question;
• participate in an exercise;
• disclose private information;
• agree with Oso Alexander;
• agree with another participant;
• remain in a discussion that no longer feels appropriate.

Where a particular event or program has participation requirements, those requirements will be disclosed separately.

17. Facilitator Boundaries and Authority

Oso Alexander and other SSS facilitators may guide discussions, ask questions, redirect conversations, moderate interactions, or establish boundaries around participation.

Facilitation does not mean controlling another person’s truth.

Moderation exists to protect the integrity of the space, not to require agreement.

A facilitator may intervene where a conversation becomes:

• coercive;
• threatening;
• personally attacking;
• sexually inappropriate;
• repeatedly disruptive;
• unsafe;
• inconsistent with these Guidelines.

18. Moderation

SSS reserves the right to moderate participatory spaces.

Depending on the circumstances, SSS may:

• redirect a conversation;
• ask someone to stop a particular behavior;
• edit or remove a comment where platform functionality permits;
• close a discussion;
• restrict commenting or messaging privileges;
• remove a participant from a call, webinar, event, group, or community;
• temporarily suspend access;
• permanently terminate participation or access.

Moderation decisions may take into account the seriousness, context, repetition, impact, and apparent intent of the conduct.

SSS is not required to provide warnings before taking action where conduct is serious, threatening, abusive, sexually inappropriate, coercive, unlawful, or creates a reasonable safety concern.

19. Removal and Termination

Material violations of these Guidelines may also constitute violations of the SSS Terms of Service.

Where appropriate, violation of these Guidelines may result in suspension or termination of access to SSS services.

As established in the Terms of Service, serious misconduct or material violations may result in termination without refund to the fullest extent permitted by applicable law. 

20. Reporting a Concern

If something occurs within an SSS space that you believe violates these Guidelines, you may contact:

[email protected]

Where possible, include enough information for SSS to understand the concern, such as:

• where the interaction occurred;
• the approximate date;
• the participant involved;
• For the limited purpose of reporting a legitimate concern to SSS, a participant may preserve screenshots or other evidence reasonably necessary to document the conduct being reported. 

Such material may only be shared directly with SSS and may not be published, distributed, or used for any other purpose. This limited reporting exception does not grant participants permission to record or screenshot SSS spaces generally.

Reporting a concern does not guarantee a particular outcome, but SSS will review concerns in context and determine what response is appropriate.

21. Platform Rules Still Apply

Some SSS spaces are hosted through third-party platforms such as Kajabi, Substack, Zoom, or other providers.

Participation may therefore also be subject to the applicable platform’s own terms, content rules, and moderation policies.

For example, Substack separately prohibits harassment, threats, certain disclosures of private information, impersonation, and harmful or illegal activity. 

Where platform rules are more restrictive than these Guidelines, the platform’s rules may also apply.

22. These Spaces Are Shared, Not Controlled Environments

SSS will make reasonable efforts to foster thoughtful, respectful participation.

However, SSS cannot guarantee:

• that every interaction will feel comfortable;
• that every participant will agree;
• that every participant will behave appropriately;
• that no one will misuse something shared voluntarily;
• that a participant will not encounter disagreement, challenge, or emotional discomfort.

A respectful space is not the same as a space without friction.

The expectation is not perfection.

It is responsibility and respect.

23. Changes to These Guidelines

SSS may update these Guidelines as its platforms, programs, community spaces, and services evolve.

The effective date at the top of the page identifies the current version.

Material changes may be communicated where appropriate.

24. Contact

Questions about these Community & Participation Guidelines may be directed to:

Sexy Sensual Surrender
Operated by: Alexander Maitland
Professionally known as: Oso Alexander
Email: [email protected]
Website: sexysensualsurrender.com
Business Address: 707-360 Douglas Street, Victoria BC, V8V 2P6 Canada